Bringing Out the Best in Yourself and Others

When I set down to write this article, I could relate with teachers' challenge to communicate their insights. To be successful, teachers have to speak the right words and paint a vivid picture. I understand their desire for us to see their vision.

Here is my insight:

I am honored to discuss how to develop a strategy to win. The formula sounds simple: plan your dream, develop action steps; combine your knowledge and resources to effectively achieve a result. The keys that unlock the success strategy are the passion, focus, and conviction that allows the simple formula to bear fruit.

I Will Take This Kind of Legacy For my 53rd birthday, my beloved aunt wrote to say, "This (card) really sums you up! With love, Aunt Bobbie."

The card says, "Wishing you a birthday filled with happiness and dreams come true because you're a woman who nurtures dreams and embraces a full life, and welcomes growth, who laughs soul-deep and wears her true colors with joy..."

Here's to living life to its fullest. May all of your dreams come true as well...

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Coaching is Important Even For You
Or How Someone Focused on You Works

In a few words, having a clear well- thought out vision brings purpose to each day. Coaching is a technique that helps you clarify that vision, helps you develop actions steps to accomplish that vision, helps you stay dedicated to that vision, and most importantly, helps you understand when you have accomplished that vision.

The Why of It All
Coaching helps make pathways clearer

When you illuminate the pathway of another, you light your own way as well."
Yesterday is gone forever, tomorrow is a mystery, today is a gift, that is why they call it the present. Coaching helps you stay focused and accomplish your vision: your view of the world.

Lou Holtz Speaks Lou Holtz said, "We need a dream, then the right attitude, add a dash of passion. The dream is important. Martin Luther King did not say, "I have a goal or a strategic plan." Lou said to ask three important questions: "Who do you trust, who will do their best, and who will care that you accomplish your dream?"

Coaching Descriptions
The What of It All

Coaching is positive.
Coaching is future oriented (proactive).

Pro-active has a compelling reason. With a compelling reason, things happen. Adapt or accept. Plan or act now. And the solution is... Remorse-Restitution-Change Now. "I'll do it." Do or Do not", The choice is yours. You can be good, get good, or give up.
Rory Aplanalp, a great motivational speaker, says, "We can accomplish some truly incredible things when we have enough compelling reasons. People who are proactive are always looking for ways to make a difference."

Bringing Out The Best in Yourself and Others
Executive Summary:

The key to bringing out the best in yourself and others is answering Four Fundamental Questions in Coaching:

What Would I Like?
How Might I Get It?
How Do I Stay the Course?
How will I know when I get it?

Empowering Others
Or "The Who of it All"

Coaching is client centered. Yoke is on client. Teaching them how to fish, instead of giving them the fish.
Coaching is when a person stays focused and keeps track of what someone else is saying.
Coaching is when a person uses active and reflective listening to inquiry, observe, and discuss to answer four (4) basic questions. What do they want? How might they get it? What resources do they have? And when will they know that they have it?
Coaching is when a person brings out the best in someone else.

Coaching holds the client capable

Coaching is when a person helps someone else identify their goals, develop strategies and action steps to reach their goals, work through obstacles and objections to stay the course, and help them recognize and celebrate when they have achieved their goals.
Coaching is when a person helps someone else see and act upon what are the best, most logical and efficient decisions for them personally to take to accomplish their dreams.
Coaches work on the concepts that no one is "wrong' or "broken", that change is inevitable, and that there is hope that with the right compelling reasons people will seek to better themselves and their world.
Coaching is when a person aims to identify the key questions or focus changes that would, when explored, make the difference in someone else getting the results they desire. Focused attention.

The Key Questions in Coaching
"Is It Really That Simple?"

What Would I Like? Determine highest and best use of resources that will bring the greatest satisfaction..
How Might I get it? Organize priorities and fight for the important ones.
How do I Stay the Course? Concentrate on strengths. Potential can be reached.
How will I know when I get it? Join with colleagues. Everyone is more effective as a team.

Stretching, Stretching, Stretching
Let's do a brief exercise. Power of vision and stretching that vision. (Arm across body. Notice point where hand stops. Back to original position. Eyes closed. See what you say as you move your hand across body and end at your furthest point. Can you see what is beyond your hand?. Okay open your eyes. Now again, move your hand across your body as far as your can reach. Now how far did you go? Was it further? It is the Power of Stretching.

Mentors are so Important

Mentors are so important. Dad died in January. While planning his tribute, I discovered his valedictory speech. He must have written every word and believed it because it was how he lived his life. It is also how he raised me.

Dad believed that you do your best every day.

Dad used his talents to bring out the best in others.

Dad encouraged education, worthwhile pursuits, doing the right thing.

Dad believed that life was to be enjoyed, taken seriously, respected.

My husband, Ken, says, "I (Kathy) am the protagonist in this life story." Calling others to embrace their lives and live them intentionally.

Webster defines a protagonist as "a supporter (an advocate), a person who provides active support of an idea, cause, politician, or a team, etc." What I understand about myself is that I am proactive. I am future oriented, and I like being productive (producing something or being a part of something). In addition, I enjoy variety in my challenges. And most importantly, I understand that

life is precious, a gift to be valued,
fruitful relationships are the secret and the reward of life where forgiveness rules, and
enjoying life is a choice.

Question for the day: What do you understand about yourself?

Growing up, Dad repeatedly said that I could be anything that I would like to be in life if I would just set my mind on it. He was my mentor and I miss him. I encourage you to find mentors in your lives so that you can pursue your brightest dreams and provide the highest and best use of your talents and skills.

Link To Dad's Speech

Let Me Recap

This is about the power of time. Being coached is a framework that allows you a quicker way to reach your inspired goals. Coaching is a tool to encourage others, resolve conflicts, helps others move beyond an obstacle to win the prize.

Quotes:

Marianne Williamson wrote, "Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be?"
Goethe said, "Whatever you can do or dream you can do, begin it! Boldness has genius, magic, and power in it."
Each of us have amazing talents. We hold happiness, love and joy in our spoken words that we speak every day. It is a decision we make to allow our mouths to open and speak kindness, compassion, and understanding.
Your future accomplishments will be dictated by your current beliefs.
When exploring a problem or an opportunity, imagine throwing a rock into the middle of a pond: it makes a splash and signs, and the ripples move farther and farther out. Zig Ziglar says, "You get what you want in life if you help other people get what they want in life."
We do not always get what we want, but we nearly always get what we expect.
Imagine what you would get with focus, discipline and passion. When you change the way that you look at things, the things that you look at almost always change.
Every dream contains the power to make itself come true. Yet, it requires energy or action not just imagination to propel it forward. Believe in yourself and others and May your Dreams have Feet to walk to a reality.